"If You’re the Problem… You’re Also the Path to Your Own Success!"
And You'll HATE hearing it—but it’s the most FREEING truth in business (and life)...
🔥The power’s been in your hands the whole time.🔥
Over 90% of business failures aren’t because of bad ideas, tough markets, or lack of opportunity.
NOPE!
They’re self-inflicted.
They’re the result of chronic stress, inconsistent action, scattered attention, fear-based decisions, and overidentifying with old roles that no longer serve you.
It’s not that the economy isn’t real.
“It’s that your response to it shapes the outcome.”
Read That Again, It's IMPORTANT👆👆👆
Now, here’s the twist...
If you’re the problem.
That means you’re also the solution.
Let that sink in.
This ISN’T about shame or blame.
(We don't play those games on this ranch)
It’s about agency.
Because...
👉NO pivot,
👉NO strategy,
👉NO acquisition,
👉NO viral post will replace the internal shift that makes all those things work.
You don’t need more hacks.
And you don’t need more alignment—with how you think, how you move, and how you choose.
And that’s where we get to the real cause of momentum (or lack thereof)...
It’s Not “Genetics” Holding You Back—It’s the MEMETICS/Stories You’ve Decided to Believe
In health, people say: “Well, it runs in my family.”
In business, it sounds like:
💥“I’ve never been good at sales.”
💥“I’m just not wired like those high-performers.”
💥“I need to fix myself before I can lead.”
💥“I’m more of a behind-the-scenes person.”
These are just stories.
And they might FEEL true, but ONLY because you’ve rehearsed them for a lodda years.
So, here’s the truth behind the truth:
Genetics loads the gun. Lifestyle pulls the trigger.
In other words, yes—some people start with different wiring.
But it’s what you do with it that writes the ending.
That’s why two people can have the zac same opportunity, same resources, even the same setbacks—BUT, produce wildly different results.
👎One internalized rejection.
👍The other took it as a rep’ 💥
👎One built a routine around avoiding risk.
👍The other built a system around processing it 💥
So let me ask you…
What’s the real pattern here?
It’s not what you’re doing.
It’s the state you’re doing it from, (your STANCE!)
Everything Changes When You Make This One Choice
You don’t need a full rebrand, a new funnel, or another course.
What you NEED is to answer this one question...
honestly:
Am I in control of my state of mind right now?
Because when you are, you stop outsourcing your power to...
the economy,
your competitors,
your audience,
or your past mistakes.
You stop making decisions from scarcity and start building from clarity.
From this state:
- You’ll send the message you’ve been putting off.
- You’ll spot opportunities others miss.
- You’ll finish what you start.
- You’ll lead like someone who already owns the result.
Everything downstream of your mind—strategy, systems, execution—starts lining up when the upstream signal is clear.
But MOST never check the signal.
They just keep trying harder (Ask me how I know👋)
That’s like driving with one foot on the gas and one on the brake, wondering why you ain't gettin' anywhere.
The most successful people?
They’re not lucky.
They’re present, in the moment.
They’ve trained themselves to get back to neutral and create from there.
It’s Not Magic—It’s a Practice
And here’s the good news…
This isn’t some elusive trait you’re born with.
It’s a decision.
A habit.
A choice you can keep making, every day.
And the more you make it, the easier it becomes to:
- Filter noise from signal
- Choose creation over reaction
- Design your days instead of surviving them
- See failure as data,
- NOT identity
So no, the goal isn’t perfection.
It’s ownership.
When you own your state, you own your business.
When you own your business, you own your time.
And when you own your time—you own your life.
So maybe the question isn’t “How do I succeed?”
Maybe it’s:
Who do I need to be so success becomes inevitable?
Because from that place...
You DON'T need permission.
You DON'T need applause.
You DON'T need perfect conditions.
You’ve already won the battle.
And now it’s just a matter of building the thing that matches it.
READY? 😁
Wow, this post hit!
That line “If you’re the problem, you’re also the solution” flips everything on its head—in the best way.
It’s uncomfortable, yeah, but wildly empowering.
We spend so much time looking outward for the next tactic, the next breakthrough… when the real shift happens internally.
It’s not about shame, it’s about ownership.
The idea that our “memetics” (not genetics!) are holding us back?
Game-changer.
These old stories we rehearse like scripts, most of them need retiring.
But, what stood out most: success isn’t magic, it’s a practice.
A repeatable, daily decision to return to clarity, instead of chaos.
Thank you for this wake-up call, Dedo.
No fluff. Just truth, well said.
Time to stop outsourcing power and start building from alignment.
Let’s get it.
Ahh, this gave me chills (in a good way)
Your reiteration… It’s not about shame, it’s about ownership.
That line could be its own post! (Now there’s a thought)
It’s wild how often we default to chasing new inputs when the real shift, the deep shift, comes from subtracting.
Peeling off old memes like outdated armor.
Agreed…
Not easy… but FREEing.
And yeah, you caught it: success as practice.
Not a hack.
Not a moment.
But a muscle to strengthen.
The work isn’t to “fix” ourselves, but to return, again and again, to the CLARITY that was always bubbling beneath the noise.
Appreciate you showing up with this much resonance Andrejs
Let’s keep building from that place.
In your corner
Dedo (Chief MEME Officer)
Hello!
Thank you for your thought-provoking article, Dedo. Your insights into personal accountability and the importance of self-reflection are both timely and impactful.
I was particularly struck by your emphasis on shifting focus from external blame to internal growth. It’s a powerful reminder that true change often begins with looking inward. I’m curious, how do you suggest individuals begin this journey of self-reflection, especially when it’s easier to point fingers outward? Are there specific practices or questions one can ask themselves to facilitate this process?
Thank you again for sharing your wisdom and encouraging readers to take ownership of their paths.
Angela M 🙂
Hey Angela (Great to see you again!)
Thank you so much for your kind words and for feeling the heart of the message.
You nailed it again…
it’s not always easy to shift that lens inward when pointing outward feels so natural (and honestly, so justified sometimes).
What’s helped me, and the folks I’ve worked with, is starting small and curious, NOT critical.
Instead of asking “What’s wrong with me?” (which leads to shame), I invite people to ask…
“What’s true for me right now?”
or
“What am I pretending not to know?”
Those two alone tend to stir something.
They create a moment of pause between reaction and reflection, just enough space to get honest without judgment.
And from there, it becomes more about observation than fixing.
When that becomes the default, self-reflection stops being heavy, it becomes a kind of inner dialogue you actually look forward to.
Because each insight, no matter how small, gives you back a bit more of your power.
Hope this makes sense?
Really grateful you took the time to write this.
Let me know if you try one of those questions…
Or if anything else bubbles up
In your corner
Dedo (Chief MEME Officer)
Brilliant!
You are speaking my language here.
I’m a Positive Intelligence Coach, so this resonates.
Love your question: What is my state of mind right now?
Positive Intelligence (PQ) is all about shifting your state of mind to our more positive, productive, present mind.
Doing PQ reps (2-3 minute mindfulness exercises) a few times a day allows you to rewire the brain from saboteur to sage, from fear to love, from stress to ease.
Problem. Solved.
Lauren!
So glad this one hit the spot!
And no wonder… you’re speaking my language too.
“From saboteur to sage.” That framing gave me chills.
There’s so much power in remembering our productivity isn’t about forcing more output, but shifting who’s at the wheel inside our head.
Your work with Positive Intelligence sounds like the perfect medicine for the “I’m stuck” spell so many of us fall into.
And love that you brought up PQ reps too…
…simple, small, intentional shifts that create actual rewiring.
It’s the quiet stuff that shifts those big gears, right?
And isn’t it crazy how asking
“What’s my state of mind right now?”
Can pause the pattern and make space for a different choice?
That’s the real productivity hack.
Anyway, appreciate you chiming in, Lauren…
Feels like we’re both working on the same mission, just from different sides of the mirror
Let’s keep the conversation going!
In your corner
Dedo (Chief MEME Officer)
This article is so true and very powerful as well as motivating.
The only person holding you back and holding you hostage is yourself. What you keep telling yourself is what you believe. For instance, my entire life I have told myself that I am a shy person.
Now as I am getting older, I am slowly coming out of that mindset, because I am getting myself out there in front of people and owning it. It is actually all in the mind after all.
Michel, you’re hitting that nail dead center!
And you’re so right, the biggest, baddest PRISON most people live in?
It’s the story they keep whispering to themselves, day in and day out.
Not the reality.
Just the echo.
And wow!,
The courage you’re showing by owning it… stepping into the spotlight instead of hiding behind old scripts, now, that’s the real flex.
Because it’s never really about being “shy” or “outgoing”…
…it’s about choosing to show up anyway.
Movement rewrites the mind.
You’re proof of that already.
Every time you step forward, even if it’s a little shaky, you’re breakin’ another chain.
Proud to be running alongside ya, my friend.
Keep writing that new story.
It’s a good one.
In your corner
Dedo (Chief MEME Officer)