You Ever Feel Stumped About What To Say In A Conversation... Email... Post... Or on a Date?
Here's where you could be going wrong...
YOU have a hidden agenda!
There, I've said it.
Now, before you go all Pete Tong on my ass...
let me explain.
Do's & Don'ts
What to say, and what NOT to say...
Do's
Don'ts
So, to make simple
Focus on WHO you're talkin' with... DON'T get in the way, open your ears, and stop opening and closing your mouth!
twin sister Sam.
Last Friday, some scuzz ball backed into my car, destroyed the front
bumper, bent the tip of my hood and fked off!
(Yep, hit an' run)
Thankfully..So the other morning, my car was ready to be picked up.
And on the drive over to Fords body shop, I called
my sister because I hadn't heard from her all week.
And I had a feeling that something was wrong.
She's my twin Sister and we read each other's thoughts.
Sure enough, I was right.
She told me she'd just lost her job.
She said . .
" Dedo, I'm Scared. "
So we started talking about writing more e-mails to
her private list of customers.
And she told me her one biggest insecurity is
she can't write good.
She said she has "nothing important to say".
And no one would be interested in her boring life.
And she was talking to her friend Kim in Ipswich.
And Kim has the same problem too.
Writers Block - ?
I wanted to shake her and tell her to stop the silly chattering inside her mind.
I calmly explained, what she's describing is very common.
And her problem with writing can be fixed quickly and simply.
I told Sam she has tons to say.
And people WOULD listen to her.
And they WOULD look forward to reading her e-mails.
I said to Sam . .
"You need to Find Your Writing Voice."
Because...
Years ago, I had the same attitude.
But I don't any more.
Since then, I pump shiz like this every day (easily)
Many are stories about when I was young, silly stuff about my weekend, my
favorite TV shows and other ordinary things going on in my life.
But each offered something valuble for my reader (a little insight)
Each made their day or life a bit better.
I told Sam I could show her how to "find her voice."
And once she did, she would have an unlimited source of meaningful
ideas and stories to write about.
I promised her if she was willing to learn, she could connect with
her subscribers, customers and clients in a more meaningful way.
Her e-mail communications would get opened more and stay out of the
junk folders.
She would be remembered first before her competitors.
Her customers would reply back more often, she would open doors
to more business, new opportunities and more rewarding relationships.
I said if she learned what I teach her, she'd get more referrals,
sell more products and make more money.
I explained that writing and communicating this way is a
profitable part of my business and in time, it would be the same
for her.
As long as she focuses on WHO she's talkin' with.
NOT on what to say, 'cause that won't matter...
Everything will just fall into place
I hope she takes me up on my offer because I've learned a few
things about writing over the years.
The Best Way To Find Your Voice
First off the bat, you've got to discover who you're talkin' with.
Be interested in THEM.
(because it's a sure-fire way of being interesting)
I used to spend whole evenings speaking with folk "JUST" talkin' bout them.
You see...
No one's REALLY interested in what you've got to say (believe it or not)
Most folk are interested in themselves.
And I'm not sayin' it's a bad thing (it's not)
Be genuine, and you'll find most folk will feel like you've known them all their lives.
Now, obviously it's a bit different online.
'Cause it's not as spontaneous.
But you can do your research.
Deep dive into who you're going to be communicating with.
And show them the things they can't find for themselves.
You can REALLY only help folk if they can't help themselves.
Make sense?
I love the way you write.
It is so natural and it does feel like your speaking directly to me and we have never met. I can really relate with this post in my current daily life.
I’m new to speaking through emails, blogs, or online communication platforms period and it does feel awkward, like who is going to want to hear from me, but the way you put it, “just be geniune and really get to know who your talking to so you actually have something of value to offer by way of communication” is perfect.
I like the fact that you just tell your stories about childhood or your daily stuff it places you in the realm of reality, of you being just like me on some levels and giving an opportunity to relate and like you said, “maybe even tell a story that makes my day a little brighter”.
Thank you for putting things in perspective.
Hey Dawn!
Thanks for the compliment (I’ll wrap it up, and place it in a special place in my heart)
And as I was explainin’ to Idem, you don’t have to worry about what you say… more about who you’re speaking with.
I mean…
When you’re chattin’ to a child, you know to speak a little differently than when you’re speaking with your mom or dad huh?
It comes natural!
So, speak natural – it ain’t hard.
It only seems hard ’cause (in your head) you’re back at school (being afraid to be wrong).
Hope this helps Dawn.
All the best.
Always in your corner
Dedo (Chief MEME Officer)
Hi this is very solid advice. Nothing is more important than being a good listener. And nothing breaks rapport faster then not listening. I have experiences so many bad listeners that you can tell they are only thinking about what they will say next . So I don’t bother wasting my time with those people.
Hey Jake!
Good to see you again (and I feel ya)
Those with too much selfie time on their hands are lost in the world of virtualdom.
100% focused on what they look like to others… instead of directing their attention outwards – forming lasting relationships with real friends and associates.
A shame I know.
But, ya can’t change the world… only the bonds you form with those you choose.
And that’s the important thing to bring home, huh?
Have a great day Jake.
Always in your corner.
Dedo (Chief MEME Officer)
Hi! Thank you for this insightful post on ‘What to say’. It’s a topic that many of us struggle with, whether it’s in personal relationships, professional settings, or even casual conversations.
Your post made me reflect on the importance of thoughtful communication. It’s not just about saying the right words, but also about understanding the context, considering the other person’s perspective, and conveying our thoughts respectfully and effectively.
I’m curious to know more about your thoughts on how to handle difficult conversations where it’s challenging to find the right words.
Also, do you have any tips on improving our listening skills? After all, effective communication is as much about listening as it is about speaking.
Looking forward to your insights on these topics.
Best regards,
Idem
Hey Idem!
Thanks for poppin’ by my friend.
And as far as tips for sayin’ the right words in difficult conversations.
Here’s something I learned the hard way.
It’s never the situation that’s difficult, but how we perceive the situation through the ideas and concepts rattlin’ around in our heads.
(we get in the way)
Example:
You don’t need to find the “right” words if you use the six wise men/women for guidance…
Where, why, when, what, who, and how.
These are the only words you need to know.
The rest will come from the people you’re “listening” to.
BTW Idem…
Where are you from?
When did you decide to move?
When are you going to start your business?
What business is it?
Who do you want to emulate?
How you gonna do it?
Ya see what I mean?
Nothing is hard unless you make it so. Hope this helps bud’
All the best.
In your corner
Dedo (Chief MEME Officer)
I love the title of this article because it really draws an interest and can resonate with so many people. The topic definitely draws an interest for many people who want not only learn how to make money online or communicate topics of interest within their career.
We as people who have many ideas within our head want to express them, but feel that the moment we start to talk about a topic it will not be explained or understood as it should.
Sometimes, we feel like we will be judged based on our word choice or topic of discussion. This is unfortunately normal and very common to feel and think this way, however how does one overcome those fears or moments of writer’s block.
Unfortunately, I feel like suggestions on “how to overcome writer’s block or hesitating communication” were missing from this article and could have been explained more present within the article.
I did like how the author introduced this topic and made it so relevant to our every day lives. The use of voice within this article made you feel like the author was truly speaking to you about having dialogue or being able to communicate without freezing up.
I wish the article was went into how to resolve the issue a little more.
Hey Pamkam!
Wow!… what a comment.
Okay, let’s dig in…
And to start off we’ll address the ability or not of communicating an idea.
First off, you might want to find out if there’s anyone out there, interested in what you’ve got to share.
Go to forums, book reviews, social media, and a multitude of other sources.
Example: You want to share an idea about living a busy life as a business owner and mom.
(Found this in about 30 seconds)… “I, too, have hot cups of coffee and private time in the loo. It’s not that hard, really!”
It’s a topic that a lot of mums discuss online, so use it as a post.
Spend more time listening and less time “trying” to get over writers block (if you do your research this is no longer a problem)
And last but not least…
“Feeling judged”
Unfortunately, this is normal in our society, and you won’t stop it.
The best you can do is target those who want to hear your message – a message that resonates with the people you’ve listened to or researched in depth.
Make sense?
Hope this helps Pamkam.
Always in your corner
Dedo (Chief MEME Officer)