Get Ahead In Life By Discovering How To Become Engaging, Charming, Charismatic, and Persuasive…

And It’s Not By Tweaking Your “Zoom” Meetings!

In A World Where More & More People Are Losing The Crucial Ability To Communicate Powerfully In The Land Of The Real… Unveil Top Methods To Arm Yourself With The Best Ammunition For A CareFREE, Successful, Happy Life!

Before we begin, let me ask you some important questions…

How are you in a group setting?

How confident are you at talking in a group?

When you meet new people, do you feel anxious… or do you revel at the chance to dive straight in?

Most of us would say we feel a little anxiety in many social situations, especially those requiring interaction with lots of strangers or if there’s pressure for us to perform well.

And there are SO many situations in life where being able to mix in a crowd and make the best possible impression is crucial. It’s an important part of life to be able to communicate so people around you feel comfortable, at ease, and instantly warm to you.

• At networking events.
• Starting new jobs.
• Initiating new business
• Meeting at social gatherings
• Attracting the opposite sex or similar.
• Day-to-day activities

Trust me when I say…

There are people for whom this stuff comes easy. And not only that…

They have amazing opportunities handed to them seemingly out of the blue. If you’re the type of person who is instantly impressive and who can demonstrate skills and confidence in any setting…

you’ll find people instantly taking chances on you and opening doors that would normally be shut.

The good news…

This can all be learned.

In this post we’ll unveil some of the things you can do right now. And begin the journey into becoming more confident, likable, and demonstrating your true potential. The result is… you’ll be more attractive and impressive – which will help you in every area of your life.

Are you ready?…

The Basics

I mentioned there are people to whom this comes naturally. Perhaps you know someone?

Well… I have a “friend” who I’ve known for some years. Let’s call him John (for privacy). John was the type of guy who traveled through life without a care in the world. And everyone he met seemed to love him. Nothing fazed him, worried him, made him angry, cry or even laugh. However, he did smile on occasion.

Some call it the “X” factor, although I like to call it allocentric, the opposite of egocentric.

If you were lucky enough to talk with John, what you’d find interesting was the fact he could listen to you with 100% focus. It’s like you were the only person in the room, even though there could be hundreds of people milling around.

The guy never missed a beat. He knew exactly where you were coming from, it was like you knew him all your life (even though you’d just met him).

So, where does something like this come from?

Well, apparently, it’s something to do with our evolutionary history. Something to do with our hormones and the rest of the chemical soup that bubbles beneath the surface of our skin. It’s a survival thing!

That’s why we’re driven to have sex, find food, water, and like people with lots of resources.

Often we choose to associate with people because they offer a higher probability for our survival. Someone confident will appear to have a higher social status (even if it’s not true), so spending time with them might help elevate our standing amongst our peers.

This is a big “unseen” part of why we gravitate toward some people and not others… they’re sending a signal that they’re highly capable and a good genetic “pick.”

The Game for Life…

This is a concept pick-up artists realized some time ago. Women don’t like men who dote on them or who pay them too many compliments. It paints a picture of “neediness,” and anyone in that frame of mind seems desperate, which in turn doesn’t inspire confidence.

Unconsciously this sends a message you think she’s out of your league. And if she’s out of your league, then what would you have to offer her… or her DNA?

Meanwhile, the “jerkoffs” are more aloof and indifferent, which makes them appear more desirable. It’s the simple logic that… You Want What You Can’t Have, but with added evolutionary incentive. A “Forbidden Fruit” scenario.

So, pick-up artists use this “negging” technique (amongst others) to subtly undermine a woman’s confidence and thereby make themselves look like a catch.

Another technique is “peacocking,” where they wear something stupid, loud, and colorful to a bar, hoping that women will think they’re very confident or successful… otherwise, how would they be so bold as to wear something that dumb?

Yes, these techniques are cynical and goofy, but the good news is… you don’t have to be an ass to get the girl! Similarly, girls don’t have to dress like barbie dolls to be attractive, and you don’t have to be ruthless to be successful in business…

Making An Incredible First Impression

Has it ever been drummed into you, “Nice guys finish last”?

It’s a bit of a misnomer because, as with most misinformation… it’s missing a vital piece of information. Derren Brown believes that to win friends and influence people, the most important thing is to be nice. (remember what we discussed earlier about my friend “John”)?

But that “niceness” needs to be backed up with rock-steady confidence.

To demonstrate how this might work, lets look at what would be more fruitful as a pick-up strategy for making yourself more attractive and magnetic.

Note: Similar techniques can work just as well for women and in the business environment

Now, this scenario has a lot going on, but I’ll keep it short for brevities sake.

So, you head to a bar, and instead of all the goofy stuff, you smile at the person you find attractive. If she fobs you off and doesn’t smile back, move on (remember, I’m keeping this short).

When she does smile, head over and introduce yourself, not only to her, but to the rest of the group. This way, she won’t feel cornered. Also, it instantly puts her at ease and sets you apart from the vultures. You’ve demonstrated how confident and sociable you are. Still tease if you want, but be good fun.

Make sure you chat with everyone, so she knows you’re not motivated by one thing. Furthermore, it will also cause her to question whether you’re really interested in her or her friends. And, of course, this can bring out the competitive spirit between them.

Having fun with everyone makes you seem in demand and, from a social and evolutionary standpoint, makes you highly attractive.

At this stage, when you think the time is right, ask her if she’d like another drink. If yes… well, now the world’s your oyster.

Can you see the difference?

You’re still being nice, but with the added value of being confident, sociable, likable, cool, and someone she’d love to introduce to her parents – that’s what most women are looking for.

The same behavior applies to women… you don’t have to be a nerdy librarian or barbie doll. If you exhibit intelligence and sweetness, but you also know how to dress… not being afraid to be a bit flirtatious. Then most guys prefer that combination. The clothes here are not just about showing off your best assets but also about showing off your confidence – your willingness to put yourself out there.

When a girl wears a short skirt, all the guys know everyone else is looking. And that makes her much more appealing. But be warned… there’s a fine line between being sexy and being desperate – and as you know, desperate is the polar opposite of attractive.

Saying that…

Have you noticed how it all comes down to subtle psychological elements that likely remain unconscious for most of us?

It’s about getting the best possible mate we can for the sake of our children. Of course, love can happen to top it off, but initially, the attraction has more to do with confidence and how you carry yourself.

Taking It To The World Of Business Success

Okay, so how do we apply this to the business world?

Simple…

You need to demonstrate confidence and the ability to be a go-getter, combining that with being the type of person people want to work with. So, for instance, if you’re at a networking event, show off your best attributes, coming across as fun and charismatic.

But never force anything, this is all about being subtle. People will naturally pick up on your skills and competence by the way you hold yourself in conversation. Bragging is a sign you “have” to impress, therefore appearing “needy.”

Charisma

The charismatic person is almost always a top performer in every field they choose to play in.

Your charisma has a huge effect on how others treat and deal with you. So it’s important you get a handle on this little nugget… what says you?

I mean…

Do you want more respect than the average person?

Do you want people drawn to you without any effort on your part?

Do you want to exude confidence?

Do you want to seem powerful without being intimidating?

Do you want to make people feel at ease, making them feel understood?

And do would you like to easily get what you want, because people will instinctively want to help you?

These are just a few of the advantages of being charismatic, so it might be in your best interests to learn how to become this person. And yes… it can be learned.

But before that… what is charisma exactly?

Well, according to Dr Tony Alessandra, it’s the ability to influence others positively by connecting with them physically, emotionally, and intellectually. He also quotes Harvard anthropologist Charles Lindholm’s definition: “Charisma is above all, a relationship, a mutual mingling of inner selves of leader and follower.”

And how do you learn this “art.”?

Remember earlier on I mentioned my friend John, and how everyone he met seemed to fall in love with him? Well, go back an re-read that section, because it encapsulates everything we say about “charisma.”

It’s something you can learn (if you haven’t already got it). And it’ll take a while. First, you must realize it isn’t just one thing but a multitude of thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes. Maybe you reach a point when you break away from your ego and get in touch with the finer part of who you are. Who knows for sure?

Although if you want to learn more, drop me a line, and I’ll send you some in-depth info on the subject.

Creating The Overall LOOK!

So, whether it’s in business, relationships, or any other part of our lives, being friendly, kind, confident, and charismatic will help you reach your true potential. It’s a rare “combination” to find someone who’s completely unafraid to be themselves. (And when I say “themselves,” I’m talking about the part of them that hasn’t been socially conditioned).

But that’s another subject entirely.

So, moving on and completing the picture…

You should also consider the way you look. Because remember… we’re trying to signal success and desirability. And a lot of that is physical.

Most people go through their lives reacting to outside stimuli where they’re totally unaware of how they subconsciously react. For instance… if you were to meet someone wearing a suit and tie, as opposed to someone dressed like a tramp. You’d assume the smarter person was more successful.

And even though this might not be the case in reality, we tend to react to internal stimuli or generalizations of what’s presented to us. Makes sense?

Think of it like this…

Con’ men or women rely on this little nugget to rip people off. They might dress or act a certain way, knowing their “marks” will react to the scenario and not “think” it through.

Similarly, I remember a TV program years ago demonstrating obedience to authority. They dressed a person up in a police uniform… set up a metal detector gate, and asked passers-by to walk through it. Gradually asking people to strip off before they walked through. It’s amazing how many people went along with the request without question! (I know… scary).

But this is the power of creating an overall look, so don’t dismiss it. It’s important!